In the relationship world of today, cheating is a word that has become extremely famous due to how frequent it occurs.
What is cheating and why do people cheat? Well, in the context of marriage, cheating is when a man or woman breaks his or her vow of fidelity to their spouse by being with someone else either emotionally or sexually.
Cheating has ended a lot of marriages and relationships and it remains the leading cause of divorce to date.
However, we are looking at a rather complicated but different angle of cheating in marriage that a lot of women have been saddled with but can seldom talk about:
A man cheating on his wife with another man.
Now before you develop any ideas, I’m not referring to a gay or homosexual situation. Really, then what do you mean?
The cheating in this case is when a husband is more loyal and dedicated to a male friend than to his wife. Many men create a strong bond with their friends from school; some from primary through secondary all the way to college.
As long term friends, they know each other’s history and share a lot of secrets. By this a bond is created whereby they are able to share laughter in a depth that is less compared to the wife’s time with her man.
Marriage is however sacred and has it’s requirements if it must work out. A man must be fully committed, dedicated and honest to his relationship, cleaving completely, trusting wholly for it to work out.
Putting your wife as secondary to your male long term friend will only hurt the relationship. When you don’t give yourself completely to a thing, you can’t get good results at the long run.
A man needs his space and surely needs to hang with his buddies every now and then to let off steam but this should not turn to a relationship that supersedes your wife or undermines her position in your heart as her husband.
Your friend’s opinion should not override the importance of the agreement between a husband and wife. Not all friends are mature enough to know when to draw the line and respect the privacy and sanctity of marriage. They still want to hang out everyday just like they were doing as singles.
When a woman feels threatened by her husband’s friend, it can lead to unnecessary nagging and insecurities that could affect the emotional health of the marriage. It also breeds unhealthy jealousy and competition that could become detrimental to the future of the relationship.
Here’s my advice:
Dear Husband,
Marriage as they say is for men and not for boys, the statement is not meant to be derogatory but as a caution. The reason being that there are things that a boy can do that a man cannot afford to, and there are things a boy can get away with that will be near to impossible for a man to do so.
A boy at heart will definitely mishandle the responsibilities and challenges of marriage. He will simply want to run out to go hanging with his boyfriends while a man will step up his game and ensure that he keeps his wife secured and on a pedestal that will not encourage comparison to anyone. There are benefits that should be exclusively for your wife apart from the sex. A wise man will put his wife as number one in all he does…happy will he be all his life!
That’s why you shouldn’t marry her if you can’t give her your all, don’t break her heart for a friend that can’t give you a home, children, warmth or companionship.
I wish you the best and happiness in your relationship!! …… Be a Lifechanger!!!!
