Husbands, boyfriends and fiancés mostly complain of some women being super boring and lifeless during sex and claim they get punished to do all the work since they the ones asking for the sex “every now and then”.
It’s common knowledge that women are needed (except in gay relationships) for sex to happen and to be enjoyed but have some women given up on having great sex because they feel too th a partner and themselves and are not just considered as objects of desire for others. Today’s woman gets too pre-occupied with so much that she forgets how to enjoy all these pleasurable things with a man.
Sometimes, the pressure of being a woman – career women or a mother – meddles into the way of her sexual happiness. Anyone who tells you not to work or have children is a liar but have you relegated yourself to these duties far too much to realize you have to live your life too?
Husbands, boyfriends and fiancés mostly complain of some women being super boring and lifeless during sex and claim they get punished to do all the work since they the ones asking for the sex “every now and then”. As a wife, you have an obligation to have sex with your spouse on a regular. Whether you like it or not, sex keeps the relationship going. When you come up with excuses like these below for not having great sex, it’s shocking to most men.
Being a mother
This is a very common excuse women give for not having amazing sex life. They often times complain that their sex lives have come to a halt because of the kids. Even though it sounds like a common excuse, there are other mothers who have managed to keep things steamy and heavy in the bed room. And all they have to do is work on their schedule. They plan date nights and sex time and don’t miss the opportunity to grab quickies every chance they get.
Body changes
It’s a natural phenomenon that the bodies of women change after child birth but some women blame these changes on the problems of the mind. According to Abiola Abrams, author of the award-winning ‘Sacred Bombshell Handbook of Self-Love, Manifest Your Miracles,’ if you think that your body is too whatever or not whatever enough, that is a mind problem. Women worry about being too fat, too skinny, too curvy and sometimes not too curvy enough but forget that you don’t have to be loved when you’re perfect. No one is. Being fully loved in mind, body, and soul is pure pleasure, pleasure that you deserve. Stop lying to yourself about being unworthy and let love and sex right in.
I’m too busy
Who gets too busy for sex, intimacy or her own relationship? Women even exclude themselves for girls night outs and general fun all in the name of being too busy. As from today, know that pleasurable experiences don’t deplete your energy. They keep you well fed instead. . If you are too busy for pleasure, you are too busy for yourself and life itself. Don’t give your man an excuse to cheat because he can’t find you in bed when he “needs” you.
Sex takes too long
In an unbelievable poll carried out recently, some women claim they fake orgasms and that’s only because the men take too damn long to cum! Others say they are the ones who take too long to arrive so its perfect to just fake the orgasm. But you are simply cheating yourself of all the pleasure there is pretending to have more fun in bed than you are really having.
Menstruation cycle wahala
Listen, as women, something interesting will always be happening with our bodies hormonally and cyclically. You are either menstrual, premenstrual, postmenstrual, peri-menopausal or menopausal. There’s always something going on. If you are waiting for the stars and your cycle to line up to allow more pleasure into your life, you’re going to keep on waiting till Jesus comes. A better plan is to have a plan. Know your cycle and still get the juicy sex you truly deserve.
Proud over nothing
Some women feel ashamed or uncomfortable telling their partners that they are unsatisfied. As a result cheat themselves of the pleasure of having great sex. This is the time you could put your finesse into great use in your relationship. Instead of telling him, “look, I’ve been faking it,” it’s better to go with, “hey my love, I just love when you make love to me. Can we try other stuff or anything new?”
Tiredness
Women, men, children, old, adults… everyone could use more energy. With all the craziness and busy schedules in Lagos, Nigeria or in the world makes all of us tired but this is no excuse to deny yourself pleasure.
