Does Islam allow Muslims to beat women?.

By Ibrahim Muhammed Short Answer: In several hadiths, the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) discouraged this measure.

Here are some of his sayings in this regard: “Do not beat the female servants of Allah.” “Some [women] visited my family complaining about their husbands [beating them].

These [husbands] are not the best of you.” Despite the universality of domestic violence, Muslim men involved in wife abuse have attracted more attention than others.

Their stories are highlighted in the media, giving the impression that this is an inherent part of Islam supported by the Quran, which of course is not true.

“How does anyone of you beat his wife as he beats the stallion camel and then embrace (sleep with) her?” This question was asked by the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) more than 1,400 years ago.

It is applicable today to all people of all faiths and cultures, considering the rates of domestic violence all over the world.

So before we elaborate, let us begin by agreeing on some important points: There is a distinction between Islam and the behavior of individual Muslims As in any law, creed, or faith, it is unfair to hold each and every Muslim as an official representative of the faith, perceiving his or her behavior as a reflection of Islamic teachings and assuming it is supported by the Quran.

Individual behavior is nothing but a reflection of a human individual, who could be right or wrong, gentle or violent, pious or otherwise.

If some individuals who happen to be Muslims misbehave, then this is their personal problem of bad manners or misinterpretation of the rules of their faith.

It is not fair to allow their aggression to tarnish the image of a major world religion and all its millions of followers.

Islam honors and respects women In fact, abundant evidence in the Quran and Sunnah assert the rights of women in words and deeds, giving them rights that promote and preserve their human dignity in all aspects of life and worship, so it is not logical that such a humane religion would encourage physical or psychological abuse of any sort against Muslims of either gender and of any age, race, or social status, much less against women.

Marriage in Islam is a sacred bond In Islam, the marriage of a man and a woman is not just a financial and physical arrangement of living together, but a sacred contract, a gift from Allah, to lead a happy, enjoyable life and continue the human race.

The relationship between the spouses as described in the Quran reflects equal rights and responsibilities, and it should be based on tranquility, love, and mercy.

It is the duty of both husband and wife to be a source of comfort and tranquility for each other.

Allah says what means: And among His Signs is this, that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that ye may dwell in tranquility with them, and He has put love and mercy between your [hearts]: verily in that are Signs for those who reflect.

(Ar-Rum 30:21) The Quran urges husbands to treat their wives with kindness.

In the event of a family dispute, the Quran asks the husband to treat his wife kindly and not to overlook her positive aspects.

Allah says what means: Live with them on a footing of kindness and equity.

If ye take a dislike to them it may be that ye dislike a thing, and Allah brings about through it a great deal of good.

(An-Nisaa 4:19) Islam is also against emotional abuse, not just physical abuse Emotional abuse includes name calling, belittling, using threat of divorce as a weapon to manipulate the other, threatening with a real weapon (even with no intention of using it).

Even frequent teasing, though it might start as fun, may become a type of abuse if it takes the form of sarcasm or demeaning remarks.

The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) advised us to control our anger, not to call each other names, not to use vulgar language, and not to point a weapon at another person.

This advice was general for all, but it should be taken even more seriously within a marriage.

Considering these main points, let’s now take a closer look at the particular verse you mentioned.

This verse has been greatly misconceived.

Many people take it to allow wife beating, but this is not a correct interpretation of the verse.

Islam is a whole system, so you cannot isolate one point without considering all other related issues.

When the setting is not taken into account, it distorts and falsifies the original meaning.

We should also keep in mind that the original Arabic wording of the Quran is the only authentic source of meaning.

If one relies on the translation alone, one is likely to misunderstand it.

What is the definition of “rebellious” and disobedient”? In Islam, while men and women have equal rights, those rights are not always identical.

Islam intends the spouses to be complementary, not in rivalry, so there is a clear set of rights and responsibilities for each within the contract that rules the relationship.

Islam stresses the importance of respecting contracts, most of all the marriage contract, which is described in the Quran as “ mithaqan ghalithan” (a firm pledge).

Furthermore, there is no tyranny in an Islamic marriage.

We are all told to conduct our affairs by mutual consultation, as the Quran states what means: And those who respond to their Lord and keep up prayer, and their rule is to take counsel among themselves, and who spend out of what We have given them.

(As-Shura 42:38) So in marriage, the man is named responsible for protecting, decisionmaking, and bread-winning; in return he has a right to have a quiet, orderly home and a loving wife to come home to who doesn’t make his life difficult with constant bad temper, nagging, or aggressive attitude.

The woman is named skilled homemaker, loving mother, and faithful counselor; in return she has a right to be provided for fully by a caring, faithful, protective husband who honors her and respects her individuality.

Both should be equally supportive, loving, and caring.

Both merit respect and support from their partner.PP As in any other contract, signing means that both parties agree to the terms and intend to adhere to the rules.

So failing to fulfill one’s responsibilities is a breach of the contract and merits limiting or temporarily withholding a corresponding right until that one gets back within the boundaries of the contract, or else the contract is nullified.

So, for example, a wife who repeatedly and intentionally refuses to consult her husband and does things that damage the well-being of the family, or one who fails to do what they had agreed upon after consultation for no logical reason other than rebellion, or one who intentionally does what her husband hates just to make him angry, is certainly a type of woman who should be disciplined in order to preserve the peace and harmony of the Muslim home and the family members within it.

This is, of course, assuming that the husband is continuously fulfilling his responsibility towards his wife and family but is not getting his fair rights in return, and that all other peaceful methods of resolving the dispute have failed

 

 




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