s*x can be wonderful, but it doesn’t always go smoothly. There may come a time when s*x actually becomes a problem, and consequently less enjoyable. When s*x becomes a problem, it’s time to call in the experts. Clinical psychologist Rachel Needle explains more about when it’s time to see a s*x therapist.
What are some of the signs that it’s time to see a s*x therapist?
If you have considered seeing a s*x therapist, chances are you should. If nothing else, it will be a safe place to talk about s*xuality in a way you may not anywhere else.
There are a number of reasons why someone might seek out a s*x therapist. Individuals and couples come to s*x therapy when they are struggling in their relationship or with any area of s*xuality including but not limited to issues with s*xual response (desire, arousal, orgasm, pain), gender, s*xual orientation, desire discrepancy, compulsive or impulsive s*xual behavior, s*xual trauma, shame, guilt, confusion, or issues related to body image. If someone is experiencing distress related to one of the previously mentioned, areas of their life are being impacted (such as relationships or work), or someone else is expressing concern, then it might be a good idea to reach out to a specialist.
What are some s*xual disorders that warrant seeing a s*x therapist?
A therapist that specializes in s*xuality can encounter problems with relationships, s*xual desire, arousal, orgasm, pain, compulsivity, desire discrepancies, discomfort with their bodies and s*xuality, gender identity, shame and guilt around s*xuality, or s*xual trauma.
How can a s*x therapist help?
s*x is a difficult topic for many to discuss. s*x therapists can help their clients feel more comfortable talking about s*x and their issues with s*x by seeing the therapist’s comfort with the topic as well as knowing the therapists’ expertise in the area. As a psychologist and s*x therapist myself, I strive to be open, nonjudgmental, and empathic. When possible, I normalize their feelings and experiences, while also helping them to understand how they got to the place they are that day and individualizing their treatment.
How is a successful treatment outcome achieved?
Personally, my success with clients comes from the client and my ability to facilitate understanding of how they came to be at the place they are with themselves and their s*xual functioning.
s*x therapists, as is the same with mental health professionals in general, have different views on treatment and use different theories and techniques to inform their practice. s*x therapy has typically been thought of as very cognitive-behavioral, involving a number of behavioral exercises including homework assignments and certain specific exercises. While I do sometimes utilize these techniques, I look at the client the way I would anyone else coming into my psychology practice. They are not merely their s*xual issue. Understanding the person’s history both s*xually and otherwise helps me to support the client build an understanding of themselves and their issue, so that we can begin to make changes in their thinking and behavior.
How do you know if a particular s*x therapist is right for you?
As with any type of therapist, it is about goodness of fit or the right match. The relationship, good rapport, and feeling comfortable with a therapist are all critical. Of course a therapist’s knowledge, credentials, competence, and skill are also important. Therapists come from different theoretical backgrounds and subscribe to any number of therapeutic styles and techniques. Sometimes you have to “shop around” to find the right therapist for you.
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