It is amazing how this world keeps on changing. Nudity in public seems to be the in-thing these days. I used to believe that only professional sex workers needed to open up their body to the public to attract clients. I now have a rethink however since even girls who are supposedly not engaged in such profession to the same line.
This is especially so in our tertiary institutions. Now, it must be pointed out that those engaged in this mode of dressing I consider indecent, transcends religious boundaries, as adherents of the two dominants religions are culpable.
I don’t know much about the position of Christianity concerning this, but it is considered an aberration in Islam and such those who engaged in this are not seen as not good Muslims.
The trend is so brazen these days on our campuses that it is now normal to see a girl walk around without any form of a-top but a brazier,a short showing the curve shape of her buttock or a see through clothe that lives nothing for imagination. Is this really right? Is this really what ladies must do to attract guys? I don’t think so.
The truth is that while some guys may appreciate a loosely dressed girl for what they can “see” and possibly ”get” for,it is a settled fact that guys don’t take such girls serious to the point of marriage. When it’s time to choose a life partner, most of these girls don’t stand a chance to compete for a guy’s heart.
To show that some of these guys have taken the girls for object of entertainment, they talk down on the girls who chose not to put out private parts of her body out there for them to cheaply without any form of soliciting.
I believe women do not need to dress seductively or extravagantly to attract men’s attention. All they need to do is to show that they can be taken seriously by the opposite sex and can be relied on for emotional security when they need.
And when you come to the other leg of the twin ills of our society-delayed marriage among the ladies- you find that ladies who are mostly guilty of this menace are the university undergraduate. There must be something that makes them lose interest in marriage after attaining heights in life. They must have been led by that thing that they couldn’t marry while in schooling.
The truth is that good men find it hard to approach a university graduate with the intention of asking their hands in marriage and the reason is simple. Once a lady becomes a graduate she wittingly or otherwise get catapulted to some height in life that it takes an equally heightened man to approach her for marriage purpose.
And as a result of this, the society is awash with successful but unmarried ladies with all the attendant consequences, a social challenge that produce no good fruit to the society.
I believe that much as it is desirable for ladies to aspire to study upto to the University for the betterment of the society, I think getting married while in school or before graduation does a lot to stave a number of social ills.
One of these ills, for instance, is the notorious menace of promiscuity among the students. And this is expected because of their age bracket which makes them sexually active and are open to all sorts of temptation.
There is no gainsaying that promiscuity as a social ill many untoward consequences, but chief among them is the health hazard the indulgent are exposed to.
Closely following this is the fact that not getting married while in school means one will lose the opportunity of raising ones family at a relatively active age.
And then there is the issue of the minds of the students focused when they are married while studying because that would have rested their eyes from prying and from jumping into the hands of any man with lots of cash to buy them good things of life and or becoming ready candidates of randy lecturers, thereby exposing them to danger of being victims of rituals and sexually transmitted diseases.
SadiyaYahaya,
Department of Mass Communication,
Bayero University, Kano
