This is a general guideline, so every Muslim can take care of his children and know the correct path that must be followed, so we can do the job we are entrusted to do as Allah proscribed, as well as the responsibility the Prophet has clarified to protect the future generations of Muslims. As Allah says in Surat At-Tawbah, verse 105, what can be translated as, “And Say Do deeds! Allah will see your deeds and (so will) His Messenger and the believers. And you will be brought back to the All-Knower of the unseen and the seen.
Then He will inform you of what you used to do.” Bukhari and Muslim reported that the prophet Muhammad (S.A.W.) said, “All of you are heads of a group and all of you are responsible for your groups; the ruler is the head of state and he is responsible for his people, the man is head of his family and responsible for his family, the woman is the head in her husband’s house and she is responsible for the house. In short all of you are heads and responsible for your group.”
Prophet Muhammad (S.A.W.) did not excuse any one from responsibility that Allah has put on every individual to build the Islamic society: the ruler is responsible: the man and woman are responsible…. All within their capabilities, domains, and authorities, and the loss of Islam from our Muslim ummah these days is nothing but a result of the neglect of responsibility…
Today, I want to talk about responsibility of men and women, fathers and mothers. This common responsibility, between the two, is to rise, educate, and build the new generation in the correct method and the right way.
Allah creates the children with pure innate nature, without defects and whatever defects that happens later on is the result of the bad education. Imams Bukhari and Muslim reported that the prophet (S.A.W.) said, “Every new born has the correct instinct, his parents make him Jewish, Christian or a fire worshipper.”
Allah has put in every person the good tendencies and the bad tendencies so choose and testing will be performed, so parents must encourage and grow the good tendencies in the child so he can become a useful person that helps himself and his people. Allah (S.W.T) said in surat At-Tahrim, (verse 6), which is translated as, “O you who believe, protect yourselves and your families from a fire whose fuel is men and stones.”
And the protection of yourself and your family from hell fire won’t be with anything but the good education, the practice of good morals, and the guidance to nobility.
Islam does not distinguish between male and female with regard to the Education requirements. Prophet Muhammad (S.A.W.) said, “Whoever had a daughter, tutored her on good morals, educated her well and fed her properly; she will be a protection for him from hell fire.”
What do we mean by good education? The good education means the physical, mental and moral preparation of the child so he can become a good individual in the good society.
The physical preparation includes the care for the child’s body and his strength a through good feeding and following the correct methods in prevention and treatment of diseases.
The mental preparation includes everything that comprises the formation of the correct mental thinking, the ability of good judgment and the profound thinking and inference; so the child can understand his surroundings, judge things and benefit from his and the others’ experiences.
The moral preparation includes the instilling and neutering of the best morals; also the discouragement and correction of bad morals and behavior.
For all the above there are methods and ways that help parents to reach their goal.